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The Most Effective Type of Psychotherapy

Psychotherapy has become an indispensable part of treating a number of disorders. Some of the most common areas where psychotherapy has proven its efficacy include cognitive behavioral therapy, systems-based therapy, and psychodynamic therapy, among others. 

 

They are used in isolation or in combination with another form of therapy. All of these types of psychotherapy come with different outcomes. They are also applied in different situations. 

 

This inevitably makes you wonder which of these types of psychotherapy is the most effective. This post is an attempt to find out the answer to this question. 

 

Which is the most effective approach in psychotherapy?

 

According to experts from the field, all the approaches of psychotherapy are equally effective. This means that there is no one approach that is superior to another. Although this may seem confusing to begin with, the reasons behind this explanation are quite straightforward. 

 

Regardless of the type of approach of psychotherapy used in the treatment, three common traits are observed. This is based on the results published in one research. They are:

 

  • Building positive relationships – This typically starts between the therapist and the patients. There is an unmistakable bond between the two parties, which rubs off on the other relationship, especially in the life of the patient. 

 

An increasing number of studies point to the fact that up to 80% of the patient’s positive influence can be attributed to this bond and a positive relationship with the therapist. 

 

  • Compelling rationales – The therapist provides convincing yet psychologically derived explanations when the patient is under emotional stress. Therapists have the innate knack to make compelling explanations that makes sense to the patients. Regardless of the clients’ condition and situation, the explanation must make sense to the particular client. 

 

  • Targeted change – The patient undergoes a number of procedures and exercises that aims to result in a helpful and positive outcome under the supervision of the therapist. Some of these practices are aimed to be adaptive, meaning that the patient can overcome difficulties using them. 

 

It also involves breaking the pattern of behavior by the patients. These three steps also constitute the quality of success in psychotherapy, irrespective of the approach used in treatment. Without these three crucial components, any approach in psychotherapy is bound to be a failure. 

 

What defines an effective change in psychotherapy?

 

Many researchers believe that without this third step, there is no point in psychotherapy. This means that a client must show a shift in problematic patterns or reversal of the patterns. 

 

All the approaches in psychotherapy identify problems that are faced by the patients as patterns and cycles. They go round in vicious cycles that plague the patient. 

 

But fortunately, these problems make sense to him or her. This is the reason why psychotherapy clients have an overwhelming feeling of being consumed by the problem, especially before he or she can make sense of the problem. 

 

Therefore, when the client shows a shift in this problematic pattern or a sign of reversal, it is referred to as effective change.

62 years of marriage and their take on marriage counselling

Couple Married for 62 Years and Their Take on Marriage Counselling

Whenever a married couple seeks the help of a counsellor, it gets people talking. Neighbors, friends, and anyone who knows the couple start assuming that the marriage is falling apart. Some people go so far as to assume extramarital affairs and many other problems. 

But this is not always the case. Take the example of Ralph and Bev Milton. The couple has been married for a grand 62 years. And they have not been shy about seeking the help of marriage counsellors to make the marriage successful. In fact, the couple has been through four seasons of professional counselling in the course of their marriage. 

Ralph was a co-owner of a publishing house that deals with liberal Christian books. On the other hand, his wife Bev served as a United Church minister. 

The couple does not think that seeking professional help in their marriage is easy. The beginning is always the hardest. They also understand that it can be difficult to confess certain things to your partner. 

But they know that the benefits of the counselling are better than the risk of not looking for professional help. The retired couple also believes that there are other important components for a successful marriage.

What are the ingredients for a successful marriage?

According to the Miltons, there are a number of factors that make a marriage successful. These include:

  • Professional marriage counselling – It is one of the most important components of a successful marriage. The Miltons believe that irrespective of the time you spend together as a couple, changes occur in life. It can be personal interests, and children growing up, among others. 

 

All of these changes can affect everyone differently. So professional counselling offers a couple the chance to examine their relationship, evaluate their strengths, and find ways to enrich their relationship even further. 

 

  • Having common interests – Another very essential component of a successful marriage is having common interests. It can be as mundane as cooking, hiking, or enjoying each other’s company. This allows couples to bond more and have a deeper connection with each other.

 

  • A network of friends – The Miltons do not underestimate the value of having meaningful friends in their network. The bigger the network is, the better. 

 

Having a solid network of friends will broaden your relationships. These friends also become indispensable when you face some problems as a couple or as an individual. 

 

  • Cultivate individual interests – Another very important ingredient of a successful marriage is to cultivate individual interests. While it is crucial to spend meaningful time as a couple, it is also essential to spend time away from each other. 

 

This way, you are not always invading each other’s space and getting on each other’s nerves. Spending time away from each other also makes you value the time you spend in each other’s company. 

Final thoughts

Seeking professional counseling can feel similar to starting the marriage all over again. But it shows your commitment to each other. It also reflects how much you are willing to work to make the marriage successful.

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