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Co-parenting in a Strained Relationship

How do you face your partner when you still have resentment for the failure of your relationship? How do you cope with the anxiety whenever you keep them in charge of someone who means the world to you?

The solution is not easy, but possible. In this article, we will provide you with practical steps to help you manage to co-parent your child in a cordial and dignified manner.

  • Be honest about your feelings

Whether you tell your partner about your inability to be cordial with them is up to you, but do not try to deny that you are struggling. That way, your partner will be more sensitive about the way they talk or act around you. You will also find it easier to follow the next step.

  • Remind yourself that it is not the child’s fault

Sometimes people tend to divert the blame and resentment on others. The resemblance and the connection between your partner and your child might frustrate you sometimes, but your child deserves loving parents no matter how it comes.

  • Always put your child’s happiness first

Children need both their parents to develop mentally and emotionally. Even if the parents do not communicate well, make sure that you divide enough time so that the child can receive both qualities of the mother and the father.

  • Avoid paying attention to negative traits of your partner

If you really cannot avoid meeting your partner and even if you are moving on and doing better without them, remember that your child still needs him/her. You don’t have to pretend to be interested in their lives. You only have to make sure they are there for the child.

  • What they do is no longer your business

Harsh, but true. Once you have separated, do not forget that they are no longer a part of your responsibility. The only thing you can focus on is the welfare of your kid and executing your best to play the role. If your partner does not do the same, it is no longer your responsibility to try and coax them. Focus on fulfilling your side of the trust.

Take care of Yourself

If all these feels like too much of a task, consult a therapist or seek counselling from professionals. The emotional and moral support you get from sharing your thoughts with someone who wants to look out for your best makes things easier.

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How To Succeed In Parenthood Without Straining Your Relationship

While the experience of parenthood is a gift in itself, strictly speaking, it comes with its own set of challenges. It is common that the experience of having a baby often drives a wedge between partners and therefore, the relationship fizzles out and the whole journey of experiencing parenthood with your significant other becomes an exhausting journey. To avoid that, there are four simple points that new parents can take note of to make parenthood an enjoyable and a nourishing experience.

  • Equal distribution of work:

When one of the partners does all the work, it definitely becomes a deal-breaker. It is necessary that both the parents have their hand in raising the child together. Make sure that both the partners pull their equal weight by stepping up when one needs the other.

  • Be honest:

The key to a successful parenthood is being open with each other. The best way to get what one wants is to simply ask. If one is not happy with the way that your partner conducts things, the only solution is to tell the other. Make sure that during these opening-up sessions, steer clear of being judgmental towards each other.

  • Acknowledge each other:

It’s already established that parenthood is not an easy task. While it is the job of the parents to go to that extra mile in raising a child, it costs zero dollars in offering a word of appreciation or encouragement to your partner. This will boost confidence and will inspire each other during the whole process.

  • Make time for romance:

Yes, it is tough to even take a shower with a baby. But seek the help of friends and family to help you and your partner sneak some time to reconnect. If it is difficult to get some time away from the baby, engage in conversations and remind each other that you have the same love as before. Who knows? One thing may lead to another and you will be happy that you made time for each other.

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New Study Shows That Divorce is Bad For Health

According to recent researches, divorcees are more likely to indulge in unhealthy habits like smoking, alcoholism, avoiding physical exercises and finally falling into depression.

These behaviours are also expected to shorten lives or cause severe mental or physical illness. The correlation between these vital health concerns is proven by the researches of Kyle Bourassa and a team from the University of Arizona.

Bourassa and the team conducted a study on 5,786 adults over the age of 50 from the English Longitudinal Study of Aging. Out of these participants, 4,860 are married whereas the rest were unmarried, divorced or separated.

The data collected the participants’ life satisfaction, smoking status and exercise habits, lung functions and level of inflammation while keeping tracks of them during the period of study and the results predicted that the married participants were expected to live longer than the divorced or unmarried subjects.

On further examination of the data, it was also evident that there were lower physical activities, lesser enthusiasm and poorer lung functions because the divorced participants were more prone to smoking. The reason for the poorer performance of the divorcees was presumably the absence of responsibility for another person which made them lead a casual lifestyle.

According to relationship experts, Chantal Heide and Jessica O‘Reilly, the cause of depression are probably the psychological stress, anxiety and temporary distress that most of the divorcees faced.

The transitions in finance, housing, interaction, sleeping pattern and other life changes lead them to either pick an unhealthy habit or aggravate the existing practices.

The study also concluded that even with some exceptions, women fared better than the men in recovering from the bad habits and in dealing with the post-divorce depression because they are more open to socialising and willing to seek positive changes through counselling or therapy.

The men, on the other hand, were more reluctant to seek emotional support because of gender issues even though that notion is rapidly changing with time.

While not all the divorcees fall into the depressive habit, Heidi and O’ Reily stated that making positive changes ease the symptoms of depression. Activities like isolation for mental and psychological clarity, finding social support groups, adopting healthier eating and habits and lifestyle activities are some of the positive changes that can help deal with the desolation.

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Help your child find new friends

Anxiety is something that exists in everyone’s life to a certain extent, and in a way it is medically known to be helpful as well. Because, anxiety helps us stay alert and be reactive to our circumstances, whether joyful or painful. However, when the anxiety reaches the stage where it overwhelms you mentally and physically, and affects your normal routine of life, you need the help of a clinical psychologist.

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