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Worst Mistake Committed by Parents Undergoing Divorce.

Worst Mistake Committed by Parents Undergoing Divorce.

Did you know that January is called the divorce month and that the first Monday after the new years as the divorce day? All over Canada, a large number of people undergo divorce all throughout the year, but the figures are significantly higher right after the holidays are over.

Irrespective of the month of the year, divorce is a stressful and emotionally draining time. The couple undergoing the divorce is no doubt under a lot of stress. The end of a relationship can be painful, and when children are involved, it can be even more complicated.

The children are as vulnerable and undergo a lot of pain during this fragile transition. Patience, understanding, and careful handling of the situation are of vital importance so that no one is hurt or disrespected during the process.

We can all agree that not all divorce proceedings end on friendly and amicable terms. But when parents take their battle to social media, it can have far-reaching and devastating effects on the children. This is one of the worst mistakes a couple undergoing a divorce can commit, possibly causing irreparable damage.

 

How social media can affect children and divorce proceedings.

One of the most frightening things about the internet is that once you put something out there, it never really leaves. You can delete the tweets and pictures, but your footprints are already imprinted on the internet.

It can affect your kids and your case in the following ways.

  • Anything related to the divorce that you post online can affect your children’s psyche in a significant way
  • Negative statements and talking bad about your spouse can have a lifelong impact on the children
  • The texts that you put out can be used as evidence against you, especially if they are insensitive and negative statements about your spouse.

 

How to make the divorce easy for the children and yourself.

There is no divorce that is fun and celebration. However, instead of washing your proverbial laundry all over the internet, Harmony Counselling offer you some ways you can protect the children and yourself.

  • Refrain from posting negative things about your partner or the divorce on social media. Apply the same rules when it comes to emails and texts.
  • Don’t argue in front of the children, no matter how angry you are
  • Be supportive of the children and provide them with tangible answers when they ask you something
  • Reassure them of your love for them and be supportive
Importance of Marriage Counselling for Modern Couples

Importance of Marriage Counselling for Modern Couples

Unlike other areas of personal development and relationships, many people do not give precedence to marriage counselling. And it is not just the couples but society as a whole. Irrespective of socio-economic growth, many people associate marriage counselling as a sign of trouble within the marriage.

In many cases, this stereotyping and lack of understanding prevent couples from getting the right help at the right time. This has resulted in a lot of broken families and bitter exes.

At Harmony Counselling, we believe that marriage counselling can be a lifeline for those couples who have issues that threaten the relationship. It can also work to build up and strengthen new couples who have recently entered this sacred union.

Reasons why marriage counselling can be extremely beneficial for married couples include:

 

  1. Support for nuclear families

Unlike the olden days, most newlyweds live separate from their parents. When problems such as personal differences and financial issues arise, couples need unbiased support and direction.

 

  1. Improves communication

Since communication is the heart of every relationship, lack of it or communicating in the wrong way can result in a lot of pent up animosity and misunderstanding. Marriage counselling provides couples with the right skills to communicate effectively and proactively.

 

  1. Tackle issues related to finance

Couples struggling with issues related to how they spend and manage money are more common than you can imagine. It is also a major reason why many relationships end in tears. Marriage counselling can equip couples with the right strategies and valuable insights that can transform your finances and your marriage.

 

  1. Set boundaries and expectations

When couples get married and the honeymoon period is over, the realities of everyday life can hit you like an avalanche. Everything from household chores to running errands and taking care of personal self can all become a mess when couples set unrealistic expectations.

These can lead to friction in the relationship and lead to devastating results. Someone who can objectively and professionally point out these matters can improve your relationship and enrich your life. You can achieve this through marriage counselling.

 

  1. Improve the relationship

You don’t have to be undergoing problems to seek marriage counselling. Marriage is a commitment for life, and you will live with your significant other for the remainder of your lives.

Marriage counselling can offer you a great opportunity to develop and nurture this relationship so you can learn to live together, harmoniously, and in love.

Workshop on Community Safety in Kenora

On October 18, 2019, a good number of community stakeholders attended a workshop under the banner “Community Safety and Well-Being.” Ever since the legislation of Ontario made it compulsory for municipalities to develop community safety plans, Kenora has been on the forefront by making a lot of changes in the community.

This was noted by the MD of Canadian Municipal Network on Crime Prevention, Felix Munger, who also facilitated the workshop. Kenora’s Community Safety and Well Being Plan was introduced in 2015, way before the mandatory law was introduced.

What topics are discussed in these workshops?

 

Kenora’s community members are proactively trying to identify the root causes of crimes in the community. In these types of workshop and forum, a wide range of problems and social issues are discussed at length. In this particular workshop, community members focused on these issues:

  • Mental health and addiction – Mr. Munger comments that up to 80% of calls made to the police are related to social disorder. The calls that are crime-related almost always are a result of addiction and/or mental health issues.
  • Youth – Sheri Norlen from the Creighton Youth Centre in Kenora emphasizes the need to connect with young offenders on a personal level. Ignoring their individual needs has a direct link to criminal behaviour. She suggested different measures, which includes child counselling, connecting with family, anger management classes. Through these programs, she hopes to get to the bottom of their criminal behaviours.
  • Housing and poverty
  • Human trafficking/sexual exploitation
  • Violence/victimization

 

Why does traditional criminal justice not work for young people?

 

According to data, the traditional criminal justice system is not effective for the young folks. It is because the traditional system primarily involves punishment of some sort and trying to correct the criminal behaviour.

It does not attempt to get to the bottom and isolate the reason behind the criminal activity. Ms. Norlen, who is a manager of services that works with young offenders in the age group of 12 to 18, says that understanding the needs of these erring youngsters as people is the best way to correct the behaviour.

She is of the opinion that most criminal activity has roots that can be traced to family problems as well as poverty. Along with her, the entire community of Kenora hopes to keep their youth in a stable environment through prevention programs as well as workshops. These can be a solace for young offenders to stay sober, regroup and make changes in their lives.

 

 

 

 

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Concussions and Mental Health Problems Sustained in Motor Accidents Under New Claims Cap

According to the new law that came into place on April 1, 2019, concussions and a number of other injuries sustained in motor accidents will fall under minor injury. The new claim is a $5,500 cap which covers pain and suffering for the public.

For ages, British Columbia was the last province that had an insurance system that was primarily tort-based. Therefore when the Attorney General David Eby signed this new order, it was met with consternation and had a very mixed response.

What other forms of injury are included in this claims cap?

Apart from a concussion, other forms of motor accident injuries included in this new claims cap include:

  • Sprains
  • Strains
  • Cuts
  • Aches
  • Bruises
  • Different forms of whiplash

What does this mean for general public?

This decision has caused a reason for concern not only for the general public but for health practitioners and lawyers as well. Experts agree that symptoms such as depression, brain damage, and Post-traumatic stress syndrome take some time to manifest. So this decision was not met with applause.

However, the Insurance Corp. of B.C was quick to respond that there are certain conditions to this new claim. The above mentioned injuries will be considered major injuries on the condition that the problems persist after twelve months.

On the other hand, concussions, as well as mental health problems caused due to the concussion, will be considered major injuries if the problem persists for four months or more.

The affected party can still sue for loss of wages and the cost of future care. But the disputes will be examined first by a new civil resolution tribunal process, which primarily settles strata disputes.

Consequences of new law

Although there are a number of opponents who object to this new move, the government has introduced a couple of measures that will benefit the public in general.

  • It has raised the fees that are required by the ICBC to be paid for medical treatment.
  • It has also added a whole range of treatment and other services for treatment. Included in this list are acupuncture, massage therapy, kinesiology, and counselling. This has been viewed as a positive change by the Physiotherapy Association of B.C. As experts in the field of physiotherapy, we at Harmony Counselling recommend the EasyGo Physio and Wellness Centre Scarborough to get the optimal results of physiotherapy.
  • Faulty drivers are also eligible for full medical care compensation. This is in stark contrast to the fewer benefits according to the old law.
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Manitoba Province to invest up to $2.4 million for Mental Health and Specialized Trauma Counselling

As the subject of giving priority to mental health takes center stage, the province of Manitoba is leading by example. The minister responsible for women, Cathy Cox, announced that they would be investing $2.4 million in two separate clinics in the province on 4th November. They are the Klinic and the Laurel Centre.

This investment will provide ready access to mental health and reduce the wait times faced by the citizens. The steps included in the proposed move include walk-in services for mental health issues and specialized trauma counselling in the two clinics.

What benefit will this investment entail?

The multi-million dollar project will be used over the course of three years. Klinic, in particular, will have a case drop-in counselling program. The program is expected to be eight hours of every week as well as a long-term counselling program. This will raise the number of patients to 80 as opposed to the current 70 patients at the clinic.

A major chunk of the funding is also going to be used for a centralized trauma service at Klinic. This service will be made available seven days a week. At the Laurel Centre, the funding is projected to be used in hiring therapists.

As more and more studies are made, and cases are explored, experts in the medical field are finding an intricate link between childhood trauma and the quality of life. It is no secret that those who had experienced such traumatic events like domestic violence and sexual abuse but did not get the help they needed to recover bear significant loss to the society later on.

On the other hand, individuals who had the right help and overcame their childhood trauma went on to lead meaning and productive lives.

Inclusion of trauma centres and additional hiring of therapists will not only reduce the waiting list by a significant number. The improved services will also reach a wider audience who are in need of immediate help while experiencing various forms of trauma and mental health issues.

This impressive move by the administrators and lawmakers was based on recommendations of various reports to enhance and improve support for people undergoing trauma. One of the most notable of these reports is the VIRGO report.

Future plans

Apart from this recent development, the minister also hinted on more plans to introduce services for addictions as well as mental health. Up to 12 new initiatives and programs are expected to be announced by Christmas.