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Key Benefits of Counselling

Almost everyone is familiar with the concept of counselling aka talking therapy, and its effectiveness has been a highly controversial topic over the years. But, no one can deny the fact that it has one of the best results amongst the sea of “therapy” or methods involved in treating psychological conditions such as depression, separation anxiety or any family related problems.

The intriguing aspect of counselling is that the end result is entirely dependent on the effort and commitment of the person seeking therapy.

Benefits of counselling

  • Analyze your thoughts from a different and professional perspective

When you’re able to express your feeling or thoughts into a verbal form, you are bound to feel elated. Also letting go of your feelings and telling it someone who is capable of providing you with a productive solution without any judgement is always a relief.

  • Incognito discussions

Professional counsellors are very strict about the privacy of their clients. It’s always more assuring when you know that the discussions are taking place in a completely “gossip-free” environment.

  • Set time to face your demons/feelings

When you feel strongly negative about something, you tend to avoid that as much as possible. However, our mind works in a completely different way. No matter how much you try to avoid that, it keeps pilling up all that feelings/ thoughts from inside, and it is bound to explode at some point. In fact, studies have shown that we tend to remember or do those things that we try our best to avoid. Hence, taking out time to discuss your feelings openly offers a better and more productive result

  • Neutral environment

This is particularly helpful for couple’s counselling. When they are given a non-partial neutral environment, it gives them a platform to share their views openly. This, in turn, ensures the best case scenario/ result that benefits both the parties equally

 Professional Counselling Assistance

We at “familymattersplus” ensure the best professional counselling to help you deal with various conditions that require counselling/ talking therapy. We offer services such as Depression therapy, Group counselling, Separation anxiety, Individual counselling, Couples counselling etc. For more information, visit https://www.familymattersplus.com.

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Pursuing a New Life Post Divorce

Dealing with Divorce

We know the impact of a divorce and the struggles of starting a new life after a painful separation. The fear of financial instability, caring for the children in separate homes and dealing with single parenting are all relevant issues that many people seeking a divorce from their partners have to consider.

 Starting Fresh

The first step to establishing your self-esteem on your own is to get a clean break from the mess of the divorce by consulting a divorce lawyer who is familiar with family law. That way, you can be independent of your decisions and not share accountability for the success of your plans with your divorced partner.

You can consult a divorce lawyer or a family lawyer at http://abilaw.ca/ and start a new life, explore your abilities and creativity and have a successful career on your own even after divorce!

Setting a Clear Track

Many clients commit the mistake of jumping into a career out of desperation without considering the impact it will have on their family and the time it takes to commit to establish a stable job.

Consulting a family lawyer helps you determine the right path in choosing what is best for you, your family and your spouse with dignity and empathy without going against the law.

Choosing the Right Career

It can be challenging to support a family and have a stable career single-handedly at the same time. Starting a new life after a divorce requires you to invest your time in creating a new home and spare time to self-care as well.

So for starters, choosing a career that allows you work at your pace and channelling your energy into a positive routine where you can meet new people, explore new ideas and gain new perspective is an excellent place to start.

To find the right lawyer to support your future career decisions, you can discuss with a family lawyer at Abi Law.

If you are not sure of your potentials and where to begin, look for something online such as joining a hairdressing school in your locality where you can develop skills and learn online at your own pace.

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Pornography Addiction Ruins Couple’s Marriage

What started as the perfect relationship for Jane (name changed) and her relationship with her childhood friend turned into a relationship nightmare because of his addiction to pornography.

The Red Flag

Being close friends and a couple who shared many experiences, Jane suspected that there was a dark secret with John*(name changed) behind his addiction to pornography. She eventually found out that he and many other kids were sexually abused from the age of 5 till he was 15 years old by a man that was close to their families.

The trauma of the sexual assault John faced further deepened when the sexual predator killed himself, and the victimized boys never got a trail in court.

After 13 years of marriage to John, Jane finally came into terms with the damage that the childhood trauma had caused on her husband and his addiction to porn.

The Impact

John was continuously anxious, aggressive or depressed and nervous about his privacy and he was defensive when she tried to talk to him about his masturbating habit and how it affected their relationship.

John had unrealistic expectations for her to be sexually satisfied within a few seconds just like the pornography that he watched. Since Jane could not live up to that expectation, she felt performance anxiety, distant and unattractive and even helpless though she wanted to care for him and help him.

It took a toll on their marriage when John refused to admit his addiction and made Jane feel betrayed and disrespected and hurt even though she was trying her best to be understanding.

Their 15 years marriage finally dissolved after they consulted a marriage counsellor. Jane could not see a reason to stay and had no assurance about their future and John wanted to start another life with a younger woman.

The Specialist

Dr.Smith, a clinical and forensic psychologist, explains that though the number of pornography addicts is less, addressing the issue becomes a problem. Even though it is not all related to childhood trauma, there are cases of past influences behind the addiction. The treatment is similar to drugs and alcohol abuse and involves various approaches that involve communicating and adapting.

He says that couples like Jane and John dealing with pornography addiction can seek help from couples therapy or sex therapy where they can find common grounds of understanding, abstinence and controlled usage if they want to save the relationship.

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Online Mental Health Program Funded by Nova Scotia to All Post Secondary Students

On 30 October 2018, the Government of Nova Scotia disclosed a recent public e-health program for every post-secondary student in the Province.

Elizabeth Cawley from the Association of Atlantic Universities initiated the online support program that offers seven mental health services to the students who, according to researches, are most susceptible to mental health issues.

The aim

The mental health support program, also known as HealthMindsNS was initiated because many students who need mental health services were not seeking the help because of the stigma that “seeking help” implies. Though there are no researches conducted for the need of such a program, it is broadly estimated that post-secondary students are more prone to mental challenges than any other age groups and the program is required.

Since the majority of the students and counselors use the internet, the online program also aims to reach more students simultaneously without packing the counseling services on campus.

Positive Response

Students welcome the program as it makes it convenient to approach the counselors than spending a limited one hour in a room. Online help is accessible 24 hours a day, seven days a week throughout the year.

Different Types of Services

The program provides video chat therapy, mood training sessions, relaxation activities, and telephone counseling to help the students cope with anxiety, stress, depression and destructive behavior.

Preventive Approach

The program has a preventive approach to help students deal with the pressure and stress. It aims to reduce the burden of counseling services and provide timely assistance to students without the fear of getting stigmatized and paying service fees.

Hopes For Federal Funding

The eight months trial period is expected to generate extensive data that can be used to improve counseling services all over the Province within the shortest duration.

The provincial government currently funds it with a budget of 463,000, but with further progress and more substantial collected data on the effectiveness of the program, Cawley hopes that the program will be federally funded.

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Husband Says He No Longer Loves His Wife After Caring For Her Illness

Fiona Caine, a trained counsellor and columnist, offers her expertise to a woman whose husband has fallen out of love with her without an explanation after taking care of her during her 12 months long illness while pretending that everything is fine between them in front of others.

The Problem

After she had recovered and decided to rekindle the romance, she was devastated to hear her husband say that he no longer loves her. He had never indicated any sign of disinterest or resentment, pretends like everything is fine and still share the same bed and have no plans of separating but refuse to consider counselling or provide an explanation to his wife.

Understanding the Situation

Being in a situation of the woman can be devastating and confusing, but through the experiences of Fiona, the expert says that there must have been some resentment from the past that made him question his feelings for her and the fact that they are both growing old might have triggered his sudden change in behavior.

How to Deal With Such Situation

  • Ask For Clarity

As human beings, feelings can alter and whether or not the husband’s reaction was because of accumulated resentment or a sudden one, he owes an explanation even for the fact that they were together for 22 years.

  • Be Realistic

If you ever find yourself in a similar situation, you can start by making your partner understand the reality of his actions and stop sleeping together and do things that you would typically do as a couple.

  • Encourage Conversation

Try harder to talk to him and push if you must but if he still refuses to talk, consider what severe measures you are willing to risk. Set a time limit to sort out their feelings and assess the situation after that.

  • Seek a Counsellor Alone

If all else fails, Caine suggests considering counselling alone to help I understand the situation, gain emotional support and mental clarity. The counsellor can also help gain new perspectives to deal with new possible conditions such as a relationship without intimacy, an open relationship or separation. Counselling can also give you a new approach to deal with the situation without losing self-esteem and integrity.