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Importance of Marriage Counselling for Modern Couples

Importance of Marriage Counselling for Modern Couples

Unlike other areas of personal development and relationships, many people do not give precedence to marriage counselling. And it is not just the couples but society as a whole. Irrespective of socio-economic growth, many people associate marriage counselling as a sign of trouble within the marriage.

In many cases, this stereotyping and lack of understanding prevent couples from getting the right help at the right time. This has resulted in a lot of broken families and bitter exes.

At Harmony Counselling, we believe that marriage counselling can be a lifeline for those couples who have issues that threaten the relationship. It can also work to build up and strengthen new couples who have recently entered this sacred union.

Reasons why marriage counselling can be extremely beneficial for married couples include:

 

  1. Support for nuclear families

Unlike the olden days, most newlyweds live separate from their parents. When problems such as personal differences and financial issues arise, couples need unbiased support and direction.

 

  1. Improves communication

Since communication is the heart of every relationship, lack of it or communicating in the wrong way can result in a lot of pent up animosity and misunderstanding. Marriage counselling provides couples with the right skills to communicate effectively and proactively.

 

  1. Tackle issues related to finance

Couples struggling with issues related to how they spend and manage money are more common than you can imagine. It is also a major reason why many relationships end in tears. Marriage counselling can equip couples with the right strategies and valuable insights that can transform your finances and your marriage.

 

  1. Set boundaries and expectations

When couples get married and the honeymoon period is over, the realities of everyday life can hit you like an avalanche. Everything from household chores to running errands and taking care of personal self can all become a mess when couples set unrealistic expectations.

These can lead to friction in the relationship and lead to devastating results. Someone who can objectively and professionally point out these matters can improve your relationship and enrich your life. You can achieve this through marriage counselling.

 

  1. Improve the relationship

You don’t have to be undergoing problems to seek marriage counselling. Marriage is a commitment for life, and you will live with your significant other for the remainder of your lives.

Marriage counselling can offer you a great opportunity to develop and nurture this relationship so you can learn to live together, harmoniously, and in love.

Workshop on Community Safety in Kenora

On October 18, 2019, a good number of community stakeholders attended a workshop under the banner “Community Safety and Well-Being.” Ever since the legislation of Ontario made it compulsory for municipalities to develop community safety plans, Kenora has been on the forefront by making a lot of changes in the community.

This was noted by the MD of Canadian Municipal Network on Crime Prevention, Felix Munger, who also facilitated the workshop. Kenora’s Community Safety and Well Being Plan was introduced in 2015, way before the mandatory law was introduced.

What topics are discussed in these workshops?

 

Kenora’s community members are proactively trying to identify the root causes of crimes in the community. In these types of workshop and forum, a wide range of problems and social issues are discussed at length. In this particular workshop, community members focused on these issues:

  • Mental health and addiction – Mr. Munger comments that up to 80% of calls made to the police are related to social disorder. The calls that are crime-related almost always are a result of addiction and/or mental health issues.
  • Youth – Sheri Norlen from the Creighton Youth Centre in Kenora emphasizes the need to connect with young offenders on a personal level. Ignoring their individual needs has a direct link to criminal behaviour. She suggested different measures, which includes child counselling, connecting with family, anger management classes. Through these programs, she hopes to get to the bottom of their criminal behaviours.
  • Housing and poverty
  • Human trafficking/sexual exploitation
  • Violence/victimization

 

Why does traditional criminal justice not work for young people?

 

According to data, the traditional criminal justice system is not effective for the young folks. It is because the traditional system primarily involves punishment of some sort and trying to correct the criminal behaviour.

It does not attempt to get to the bottom and isolate the reason behind the criminal activity. Ms. Norlen, who is a manager of services that works with young offenders in the age group of 12 to 18, says that understanding the needs of these erring youngsters as people is the best way to correct the behaviour.

She is of the opinion that most criminal activity has roots that can be traced to family problems as well as poverty. Along with her, the entire community of Kenora hopes to keep their youth in a stable environment through prevention programs as well as workshops. These can be a solace for young offenders to stay sober, regroup and make changes in their lives.

 

 

 

 

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Concussions and Mental Health Problems Sustained in Motor Accidents Under New Claims Cap

According to the new law that came into place on April 1, 2019, concussions and a number of other injuries sustained in motor accidents will fall under minor injury. The new claim is a $5,500 cap which covers pain and suffering for the public.

For ages, British Columbia was the last province that had an insurance system that was primarily tort-based. Therefore when the Attorney General David Eby signed this new order, it was met with consternation and had a very mixed response.

What other forms of injury are included in this claims cap?

Apart from a concussion, other forms of motor accident injuries included in this new claims cap include:

  • Sprains
  • Strains
  • Cuts
  • Aches
  • Bruises
  • Different forms of whiplash

What does this mean for general public?

This decision has caused a reason for concern not only for the general public but for health practitioners and lawyers as well. Experts agree that symptoms such as depression, brain damage, and Post-traumatic stress syndrome take some time to manifest. So this decision was not met with applause.

However, the Insurance Corp. of B.C was quick to respond that there are certain conditions to this new claim. The above mentioned injuries will be considered major injuries on the condition that the problems persist after twelve months.

On the other hand, concussions, as well as mental health problems caused due to the concussion, will be considered major injuries if the problem persists for four months or more.

The affected party can still sue for loss of wages and the cost of future care. But the disputes will be examined first by a new civil resolution tribunal process, which primarily settles strata disputes.

Consequences of new law

Although there are a number of opponents who object to this new move, the government has introduced a couple of measures that will benefit the public in general.

  • It has raised the fees that are required by the ICBC to be paid for medical treatment.
  • It has also added a whole range of treatment and other services for treatment. Included in this list are acupuncture, massage therapy, kinesiology, and counselling. This has been viewed as a positive change by the Physiotherapy Association of B.C. As experts in the field of physiotherapy, we at Harmony Counselling recommend the EasyGo Physio and Wellness Centre Scarborough to get the optimal results of physiotherapy.
  • Faulty drivers are also eligible for full medical care compensation. This is in stark contrast to the fewer benefits according to the old law.
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Manitoba Province to invest up to $2.4 million for Mental Health and Specialized Trauma Counselling

As the subject of giving priority to mental health takes center stage, the province of Manitoba is leading by example. The minister responsible for women, Cathy Cox, announced that they would be investing $2.4 million in two separate clinics in the province on 4th November. They are the Klinic and the Laurel Centre.

This investment will provide ready access to mental health and reduce the wait times faced by the citizens. The steps included in the proposed move include walk-in services for mental health issues and specialized trauma counselling in the two clinics.

What benefit will this investment entail?

The multi-million dollar project will be used over the course of three years. Klinic, in particular, will have a case drop-in counselling program. The program is expected to be eight hours of every week as well as a long-term counselling program. This will raise the number of patients to 80 as opposed to the current 70 patients at the clinic.

A major chunk of the funding is also going to be used for a centralized trauma service at Klinic. This service will be made available seven days a week. At the Laurel Centre, the funding is projected to be used in hiring therapists.

As more and more studies are made, and cases are explored, experts in the medical field are finding an intricate link between childhood trauma and the quality of life. It is no secret that those who had experienced such traumatic events like domestic violence and sexual abuse but did not get the help they needed to recover bear significant loss to the society later on.

On the other hand, individuals who had the right help and overcame their childhood trauma went on to lead meaning and productive lives.

Inclusion of trauma centres and additional hiring of therapists will not only reduce the waiting list by a significant number. The improved services will also reach a wider audience who are in need of immediate help while experiencing various forms of trauma and mental health issues.

This impressive move by the administrators and lawmakers was based on recommendations of various reports to enhance and improve support for people undergoing trauma. One of the most notable of these reports is the VIRGO report.

Future plans

Apart from this recent development, the minister also hinted on more plans to introduce services for addictions as well as mental health. Up to 12 new initiatives and programs are expected to be announced by Christmas.

 

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Signs You Need Mediation In Your Marriage

Marriages are complex, and every one of them is different. There is nothing like a perfect marriage, so the rough days will eventually come. And some days and episodes can be more trying than others.

There are some problems that you can navigate on your own, as a collective solution. However, there are others which need more context and a third person to evaluate the situation. Marriage counselling can be beneficial in so many ways.

Signs that you may need mediation in your marriage include:

There are secrets

Secrets in marriage arise when you feel suspicious of your partner and that you cannot trust them with certain things. Honesty and implicit trust are vital to any relationship but all the more so in a marriage.

Communication is weak/difficult

Lack of proper communication in a marriage can make both of you feel unheard, neglected, and disrespected. It is typically the first harbinger of trouble in a marriage. If you cannot understand the different styles of communication, it can lead to a lot of problems.

There is less and less sex

Physical intimacy is one of the key ingredients in a marriage. If you have been feeling like you live like roommates rather than a married couple, you are right in thinking that something is wrong. It is especially true if this lack of intimacy is a sudden occurrence.

You argue a lot

When you communicate with your partner, and it almost always ends in an argument, there is trouble. Arguments can be just as bad as not talking to each other at all.

There is infidelity

Few things can be worse than infidelity within a marriage. It could be physical, emotional, sexual, and even financial infidelity.

At Harmony Counselling, our therapists have extensive experience in marriage counselling, and we are ready to mediate for you.

Call us today for an appointment.